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Before you can post or reply in these forums, please our online community. the online community Community rules Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak. I'm a trans man. I've been hormonally transitioning for a little under 2 years, and I had top surgery a double mastectomy earlier this year. I have a beard, a deep voice, and am covered in body hair. I'm very happy with my body. I started actively questioning my gender identity at 18 years of age, and lasted 2 more years living as a female before I knew I had to take steps to affirm my true identity.
My pre-transition life was miserable, and I was constantly overwhelmed by depression and dysphoria. Now that I'm free of that, I feel absolutely euphoric within myself. I transitioned super quickly, which was a privilege that I'm endlessly grateful for. All decisions were made with the input of multiple therapists and healthcare professionals. And now I'm left with a body I adore, living the life I dreamed of when I was . I'm kinda tired of talking about trans stuff, though.
I get exhausted being in the community. I never got to live a "normal" life, and do "normal" things, like my peers. I didn't date or have average teenage experiences, because I was too busy trying to wrangle my sense of self into being that of a cisgender girl.
I want to do all those things now, but I don't know how to move on at least temporarily from the transgender community. I just want to live my life as an average guy. I want my transition to be part of my medical history, and nothing more. I don't actively identify as transgender, I just feel male. In terms of categorisation and history, I am transgender, and I will always be a trans man; but in my day-to-day, I'd really rather just be me.
I feel obligated to be an activist, but I feel like I need some time that's just devoted to me. There's a lot of guilting that goes on, saying that people with privilege must perform activism. But I have been among other things suicidal, depressed, assaulted, and harassed I do experience aspects of privilege, but I also resent the obligation to live a certain way because of that privilege, as if I haven't suffered too. Haven't I earned a few years of peace? Why can't I just be an average dude for a while? Must I remain this pubic about my gender history forever?
I would like to educate you however, if you'll indulge me. I made this thread to receive support from others, not to educate others, but I suppose I should anyway. The word "trans" is a descriptor. There is more information about transgender people here, including information about transgender terminology:. I think if you go with your heart and do what it wants to do.. I mean if you want to move on Please do so You need to now enjoy the life that you have ly been denied Im wondering with your depression and suicidal thoughts if you could make an appointment with your GP for professional help..
Depression is very hard to manage on your own.. Do you think you would consider reaching out for help to your GP I think again.. Break away from your past Brian.. Move away from the publicity of you.. Thanks very much Grandy, I really appreciate you taking the time to give me this beautiful reassurance. It feels wonderful to be given permission to put myself first. I think part of the issue is some of the younger transgender communities, on certain social media platforms.
The dialogue is often so hostile and intense, and I just feel exhausted by it. There's an obligation that we must bare our souls and make this private part of our lives utterly public, but just for a while I want to say, "no, that's personal". I don't want anyone to bother me. I don't want to be stealth because I'm at all ashamed, and I'm not "lying" by being stealth. I want to be stealth because I'm finally the man I've always wanted to be, and I don't care to have my past discussed or considered.
I just want to be male, and when people know you're trans, they don't always afford you that basic courtesy. It's not hiding who I am, it's being who I am. Cheers for your concerns about my mental health! I was actually diagnosed with a hereditary anxiety disorder a few years back, and am very comfortable managing that condition. But the mounting frustration of being a vocal member of the transgender community is suffocating me, even though I have all these measures in place to be mentally stable.
So I'm at a crossro, and I need to figure out how to extricate myself from a community which is so entwined with my social life. I consider everyone as a unique and beautiful person.. I just wanted to pop in and let you know in my earlier post You have no need to feel any guilt at all about wanting a private life My Kind and caring thoughts dear Brian up below for regular s filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones.
You are currently: Home Get support Online forums. Online forums Before you can post or reply in these forums, please complete your profile Complete your profile. Forum membership is open to anyone residing in Australia. Cancel The title field is required! Hello, everyone. A recent traumatic incident, in the trans community, has caused these feelings to intensify. Welcome I don't know enough about the topic of trans but I admire you and hope you evolve in a positive way. Two thre I've written might help.
Use Google Beyondblue topic want to be a hermit? Beyondblue topic you are still a jigsaw piece Beyondblue topic the best praise you'll ever get Regards TonyWK. I'm bi and it's frustrating that I don't get the respect that I deserve. I'm a 42 yr old male that has been troubled ally life and now all I want is to vanish, vanish from this existing life and not return. How can I get help when I really need someone to listen to me. I've never created problems for myself, thou others have through gelousy. Brothers I know only too well as depression is a anxiety that causes multiple pain. I suffer from depression and anxiety, bipolar manic depression with a split personality disorders.
I can't manage with the emotional breakdown. I feel like nothing matters after dealing with a family situation which caused me to being threatened by a few gangs, I was alone and afraid for my life. Slowly I am trying to get over my nerves as they are damaged.
Please don't give up,as, I know how you feel when you get pulled from pillar to post. Hey Smoknkhan, welcome to our friendly online community, we are so glad you decided to us here. Thank you for posting and sharing your experience. We are sorry you are feeling this pain of feeling like you are not listened to or getting the respect you truly deserve.
That is a painful position to be in and can feel isolating. It is great you are here to reach out and share your feelings. It might be really helpful for you to start your own thread so that you can get the best support from our wonderful community. Thanks for your sentiment, TonyWK.
Hello Smoknkhan. I hope you find the support you need on another thread. My experience as a gay transgender man is very different to yours, and I started this discussion to seek support for my specific circumstances, which involve a gender transition, inter-community relations, and the burden of being public about my medical history.
Please seek comfort through another post, where individuals will be able to devote their time to giving you advice. Thanks Brian. I stand educated and happy to be so. IT reflected my naivety TonyWK. Ggrand Community Champion. Hello Brian You are you.. My kind thoughts with care..
Again, thank you for your lovely reassurance and advice. I hope you've had a great day. Hello Dear Brian Hey brian23 I hear and feel your pain. Bssying that I don't want to make this thread about me, and i hear and understand the frustration if I take away from what you are trying to say and take away from the support you are trying to receive. Being an advocate or voice for the trans community is hard and can get so tiring. Having to constantly answer questions when we just want to be out true selves and to be seen by the world as we are and not who we were.
I think it is possible to be stealth in the outside world whilst also being an advocate and speaking up for trans issues and not letting discrimination or transphobia or even just lack of education get in the way. There is a time and place for both, I think finding the balance would be key. I have no idea how you could achieve that though sorry. I'm sorry I can't really help with any advice, but I just wanted to let you know I hear you and want to acknowledge how strong and amazing you are. I hope you manage to find some peace through this. Stay in touch with us up below for regular s filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones.
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