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Fortunately, many in the adult BDSM community employ an ethics mantra to help those new to the scene, or even more seasoned practitioners, feel comfortable testing limits. This guide will define those concepts and give examples of responsible power play between adult partners.

Study up—not just on use of your equipment, but on basic human anatomy, too. Some parts of the body, like on the back near the kidneys, are riskier places to be struck. Practice whipping pillows before using human partners; practice tying basic knots before attempting more intricate bondage. These might sound like a lot of rules, but if your partner trusts you with his or her body, you need to be able to trust yourself, too. Emotional safety is as important as physical safety when it comes to sex and power play, which brings us to the second item of the BDSM ethics code.

The rationale and context may be different, but the concept of emotional safety is absolutely critical for responsible BDSM exploration. In BDSM practice, this requires considerable introspection on the part of both dominant and submissive partners.

Do I have a handle on my sadism, and am I capable of balancing it with loving kindness? Am I doing this because I enjoy it, or out of a sense of guilt or obligation? Play only with partners with whom you know your limits will be respected. Do not equate genuine cruelty with kink. The use of a safeword connects to the third and final descriptor in the BDSM ethics code. Most forms of BDSM involve the creative surrender or takeover of control; however, this works harmoniously only between two or more consenting partners.

Establishing consent may seem murky when people are playing out fantasies that involve force or domination, but there are many ways to ensure your partner is enjoying his or her experience. Agreeing on a safeword is important, as is respect between partners. The idea of respect may seem confusing or even comical if humiliation or shame is integral to your fantasy. Rather than focusing on respectful words or behaviors, we can think of respect as an overall commitment to mutual safety and pleasure.

Notice any tension that exists for you alone or between you and your partner. Trust your gut. Were they sane? Were they consensual? With proper introspection comes the responsible use of power. I hope these guidelines can aid you in your quest for ethical fun and pleasure!

The preceding article was solely written by the author named above. Any views and opinions expressed are not necessarily shared by GoodTherapy. Questions or concerns about the preceding article can be directed to the author or posted as a comment below. Please fill out all required fields to submit your message. I think that if this is what two consenting adults wish to incorporate into their sex life, then fine, so be it.

Not for me, but hey, to each his own. My problem is that books and films like 50 shades make you think that it is actually ok to do this without consent, and to me, even as a man, no consent equals rape, pure and simple. You did like the movie?!

I guess that if you see it from a point of view that it is about a young woman liking her new found sex life then okay, but she is also lorded over and basically stalked right? Not too healthy I would imagine in real life. I know that for me it would make me very uncomfortable but for others this might be the way that they enjoy their sex lives. I am not opposed to it especially if everyone involved is a willing player and everyone keeps it safe. ing an actual contract is, quite often, a part of a Dom. In it, you lay out what constitutes hard limits those things you will NEVER consent to , soft limits those things which you MIGHT consent to at a later time , and what the overall parameters of the relationship are.

What are the safewords? Do you think that I have been with people who naturally feel the same way about sex that I do, or if there are more people who want to do this and they have just been holding back? By commenting you acknowledge acceptance of GoodTherapy. Get Listed . Now What? Invalid Address. Please confirm that you are human. Colin March 16th, at AM I think that if this is what two consenting adults wish to incorporate into their sex life, then fine, so be it.

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